These are just my thoughts and if you are reading this then feel free to leave a comment but don't expect a debate or discussion thanks...
I've been in several relationships and have learned from them all. I was never one to go into another relationship still holding on and wishing to be with the person that I just got out of a relationship with. Tell me what is the purpose of getting into a new relationship and still desiring the last one you were in a relationship with. To make matters worse you get engaged and then married to this new person yet you are still trying to pursue a relationship with your ex. If you have moved on and they have moved on why are you still holding on? How can you enter into holy matrimony with someone yet you are still pursuing other people.
Since when did getting married and continue being a hoe become the latest trend for marriage? How can you stand before god and vow your love, life and all to someone you are clearly not in love with?
You have cheated on everyone you have married and for whatever reason you cannot see the dysfunction in that. Or is it that you just don't want to. When did it become the thing to do to sleep with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend partner then marry them? When did it become the latest trend to talk about and hold conferences on being faithful to your spouse, when you are always the one cheating?
Because there are so many good and deserving people seeking the right mate it is hard because of the cheaters and liars. How can anyone learn to trust especially when you began to see the PASTOR of the church doing such act of betrayal? Don't get me wrong I know it has been going on throughout the ages but now it has become a trend.
Some say that the same-sex marriages has corrupted the sanctity of marriage but in my eyes those who use marriage for other reasons than to love, honor, cherish and obey the one they are vowing their lives to are the ones destroying the sacredness of marriage.
I have found that there are so many people who rather save face for their indiscretions of betraying their wife/husband when they admit to cheating, instead of trying to stay with that good woman/ man they would rather end their marriage and marry the one who help destroy their marriage. See we as humans complain of not being able to find a good man/woman but when we get them we don't know how to treat them or keep them. Yet when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side that it is artificial turf you want to come back. By that time someone else has begun to appreciate what you didn't want to.
I'm writing this from experience. I was blessed with that one person who is my everything and the person that let her go is still trying to get what they once had back. But the truth is we have a choice as to how we make our beds then we have to lay in it. I see and hear so much with unhappy people because of bad decisions made. I've learned it is better to work it out with someone that is willing to fight for you than someone that just want to f*$k you. A true god fearing man or woman is hard to come by so when you get them hold on to them. There is no perfect relationship but there are relationships that are perfect for you.
I'm thankful and grateful for my blessing and couldn't imagine my life without my wife. I can't speak for all but I can speak for some. Learn what it is to love and be loved before you try love. True love comes from within once you learn what it is to love yourself then you have tools to work with when desiring to love someone else. I don't have all the answers but I do have a testimony as to finding love and holding on to it. I'm someone that loves love and want everyone to experience the same kind of love I have if not better. But you first have to be truthful about what it is you truly want. If all you want to do is have multiple partners I don't condone it but don't drag someone who wants to settle down into your whirlwind. Be honest with yourself and others before capturing someone's heart.
