Why should I repeat myself if there is something I don't agree with and I have said it to you on more than one occasion why should I have to keep repeating myself? Why is it so hard for people to understand if you continue to do things the same way then you will continue to get the same response. You want others to respect the way you feel yet you won't do the same in return. If every time you tell a lie and someone catches you in it what makes you think that they will take any of your words as truth. Blatant disregard for someones feelings is rude and disrespectful. Get it together and figure out just how important the people in your life are to you.
When it come to being in a fruitful relationship stop keeping the people around that will cause troubles for you in your relationship because they feel you should be with them. Learn that if those in your life that truly care for you will not do anything that will cause you and hurt, harm or pain in your life. If you allow someone to take you off the path for your blessing then that just means that you were not worthy to have them in the first place. Remember that everyone that in your life that is cheering is not cheering for your happiness. They may just be cheering for themselves for that blessed spot in your life. But what most fail to realize if its not meant for you to sit in a certain seat than even if you make it there that seat will never be comfortable.
Be thankful and know your place in life just because it looks good doesn't mean it is good for you.
Just because it's drinkable doesn't mean you should drink it. We may have the same desires but the way in which we receive them may be different.
Wednesday, August 15, 2012
Let sleeping dogs Lie!
What is the purpose of constantly putting your nose in every one's business?
I have witness a lot in my day about different issues that have gone on in my life and those around me. If for whatever reason an issue is too painful for an individual to handle then LEAVE IT ALONE. Why keep going on about an issue that has nothing to do with you and allowing this person to keep going through so much pain? The only way a person can heal is to forgive, move past the issue, and leave that situation alone. I understand we have friends that help us through some hard times in life but if for whatever reason to keep talking about the same situation than that is causing pain over and over again than leave it alone.
There comes a time in our lives when we must realize that there are times when we can deal with an issue then there is a time where we need to pray and ask for guidance. There are so many things in life that we can be dwelling on that is positive. Yet we allow ourselves to get caught up on the negative issues in life.
Sometimes people can think they are helping but in reality they are making things worst. Not every battle is meant to be fought or even given energy to. So when do we say enough is enough? And learn to let sleeping dogs lie......
How is it that we never want to deal with drama but we are the reason that it is forming in our lives. To keep picking at a wound will never allow for it to heal. Learning to cut ties can be a very forgiving thing and in return began a healing process. Take a stand and start to move forward and enjoy life. If the lies I told you keeps hurting you than cut me off. If I keep using you and you see that is my soul purpose than leave me alone and walk away. If all I can do is make you cry than I have no reason to be a part of your life. Hurt people do hurtful things and sometime we learn from our pain, sometimes we don't. Does the fact that I am hurting give me the right to hurt you or just act out because of my pain? I can choose to do what is right and not act out based on my emotions.
Should I allow my pain to infect those who have my best interest at heart? Or should I seek understanding to find out where I should go from here? There are so many questions in life that go unanswered and not because there isn't an answer. But because we refuse to seek the answer. Is it that we never really move past the hurt or is it that we find comfort in the pain? Dysfunction has become our friend and peace our enemy. Are we becoming a people of weakness and no longer to posses strength? Or is it that we so feeble minded that we can't see life for what it is? I say enough is enough and that we need to let sleeping dogs lie.
I have witness a lot in my day about different issues that have gone on in my life and those around me. If for whatever reason an issue is too painful for an individual to handle then LEAVE IT ALONE. Why keep going on about an issue that has nothing to do with you and allowing this person to keep going through so much pain? The only way a person can heal is to forgive, move past the issue, and leave that situation alone. I understand we have friends that help us through some hard times in life but if for whatever reason to keep talking about the same situation than that is causing pain over and over again than leave it alone.
There comes a time in our lives when we must realize that there are times when we can deal with an issue then there is a time where we need to pray and ask for guidance. There are so many things in life that we can be dwelling on that is positive. Yet we allow ourselves to get caught up on the negative issues in life.
Sometimes people can think they are helping but in reality they are making things worst. Not every battle is meant to be fought or even given energy to. So when do we say enough is enough? And learn to let sleeping dogs lie......
How is it that we never want to deal with drama but we are the reason that it is forming in our lives. To keep picking at a wound will never allow for it to heal. Learning to cut ties can be a very forgiving thing and in return began a healing process. Take a stand and start to move forward and enjoy life. If the lies I told you keeps hurting you than cut me off. If I keep using you and you see that is my soul purpose than leave me alone and walk away. If all I can do is make you cry than I have no reason to be a part of your life. Hurt people do hurtful things and sometime we learn from our pain, sometimes we don't. Does the fact that I am hurting give me the right to hurt you or just act out because of my pain? I can choose to do what is right and not act out based on my emotions.
Should I allow my pain to infect those who have my best interest at heart? Or should I seek understanding to find out where I should go from here? There are so many questions in life that go unanswered and not because there isn't an answer. But because we refuse to seek the answer. Is it that we never really move past the hurt or is it that we find comfort in the pain? Dysfunction has become our friend and peace our enemy. Are we becoming a people of weakness and no longer to posses strength? Or is it that we so feeble minded that we can't see life for what it is? I say enough is enough and that we need to let sleeping dogs lie.
Sunday, April 1, 2012
Its the tone of your voice that calms my raging seas
Its the gentle touch that puts my mind at ease
Its the sparkle in your eyes that shines the light to your soul
Its the curve of your smile that speaks to my soul
Put your hand in my hand as we walk this life together
For better or worst but love make the worst things better
The truth in your honestly
Opens the doors to greater respect for thee
Its the gentle touch that puts my mind at ease
Its the sparkle in your eyes that shines the light to your soul
Its the curve of your smile that speaks to my soul
Put your hand in my hand as we walk this life together
For better or worst but love make the worst things better
The truth in your honestly
Opens the doors to greater respect for thee
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Thoughts on Change
Do you believe that people can change?
As I sit back and reflect on my life and look at where I had come from I can honestly say I am a changed woman. I made up in my mind that I wanted to change the person that I saw in the mirror and that is what I decided to do. Most say they want to change but the change is just a temporary fix and not that lifetime thing in which they claimed to desire. I've made many mistakes along this journey called life and some I had regrets about most I've learned many lessons from.
So if it is that I was able to change should I doubt the fact that others have made those same changes in their lives as well. Does that make me a hypocrite because of the doubt of the changes others make in their lives? Should I believe it when someone tells me that they have changed even though most people don't do as they say but show you what it is that you want to see and hear. Is it possible for a liar to stop lying or a thief to stop stealing or maybe a killer to stop killing?
Some people change because of themselves and there are people that change for other and others that say they want to change but never make that effort to do so. No one can be who they want to be until they confront the person that they have become. Once again I say people can change if that is their hearts true desire and they want to change for the right reasons.
Just some of my thoughts on the things I be thinking......
As I sit back and reflect on my life and look at where I had come from I can honestly say I am a changed woman. I made up in my mind that I wanted to change the person that I saw in the mirror and that is what I decided to do. Most say they want to change but the change is just a temporary fix and not that lifetime thing in which they claimed to desire. I've made many mistakes along this journey called life and some I had regrets about most I've learned many lessons from.
So if it is that I was able to change should I doubt the fact that others have made those same changes in their lives as well. Does that make me a hypocrite because of the doubt of the changes others make in their lives? Should I believe it when someone tells me that they have changed even though most people don't do as they say but show you what it is that you want to see and hear. Is it possible for a liar to stop lying or a thief to stop stealing or maybe a killer to stop killing?
Some people change because of themselves and there are people that change for other and others that say they want to change but never make that effort to do so. No one can be who they want to be until they confront the person that they have become. Once again I say people can change if that is their hearts true desire and they want to change for the right reasons.
Just some of my thoughts on the things I be thinking......
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Love,Lust or Lies
Love, lust or lies is a southern urban fiction book of romance by Jacksonville's own Monya Williams. See how the entanglement of the hearts want, desires, and needs captivates you reeling you into the pleasures of the mind, body and soul. Feel the passion for one's aspiration to love and be loved, the longing to be touched and the choices that have been made in order for these events to take place. The knowing when to let seasonal things past in order to make way for lifetime embraces. Monya Williams captures the false realities of the misunderstanding of relationships as she personifies the truths about life and love. Taking blinders off our eyes in order for us to see what truly is and not just what we want them to be. Let go and become captured in the journey of love lust or lies as she draws you in as if it were your story being told.
Love lust or lies by Monya Williams go out and get your copy you will be glad you did.
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Love lust or lies by Monya Williams go out and get your copy you will be glad you did.
www.createspace.com/3636211
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Love Lust or Lies- Monya Williams
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Author, poet motivational speaker. |
| Description | I'm a student of the art of poetry and a writer of passion. The sensual melodies of life and love are my inspiration.Leaving the mind to be opened to various possibilities and discovering your truths about love the ups and downs of it and the lies people will tell in order to get it keep it or destroy it. Uncovering the misconceptions placed on lust as an excuse to use love as a weapon to do unjustifiable actions to those they love or those that love them. Love, lust or lies is about realizations of the heart, life and experiences a reading that will not only change your mind but your life. It gives freedom to be the person your destined to be and love who loves you back. Never allow your self to fall in a situation because of what others think but possess the ability to be honest with yourself and true to others. |
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| Biography | Monya Williams is a author and poet in her hometown of Jacksonville, Florida. She has been published in The Best Poems and Poets of 2002, The Best Poems and Poets of 2004, The International Who’s Who In Poetry, Timeless Voices, Mythology Of The Heart, The Layers Of Our Souls, aside from publishing her own works such as Poetically Speaking and Crying Hearts capturing the hearts and ears of her readers with profound poetry. Making various appearances as a spoken word artist in Jacksonville’s Boomtown for poets and others that love the arts. Exploring, understanding, the truths behind love, the confusing of lust for love, while bringing forth the lies that started it all. This is her first novel of short stories as she embarks on new grounds captivating the readers with her exotic novel of short stories. |
Relationships and Honesty
These are just my thoughts and if you are reading this then feel free to leave a comment but don't expect a debate or discussion thanks...
I've been in several relationships and have learned from them all. I was never one to go into another relationship still holding on and wishing to be with the person that I just got out of a relationship with. Tell me what is the purpose of getting into a new relationship and still desiring the last one you were in a relationship with. To make matters worse you get engaged and then married to this new person yet you are still trying to pursue a relationship with your ex. If you have moved on and they have moved on why are you still holding on? How can you enter into holy matrimony with someone yet you are still pursuing other people.
Since when did getting married and continue being a hoe become the latest trend for marriage? How can you stand before god and vow your love, life and all to someone you are clearly not in love with?
You have cheated on everyone you have married and for whatever reason you cannot see the dysfunction in that. Or is it that you just don't want to. When did it become the thing to do to sleep with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend partner then marry them? When did it become the latest trend to talk about and hold conferences on being faithful to your spouse, when you are always the one cheating?
Because there are so many good and deserving people seeking the right mate it is hard because of the cheaters and liars. How can anyone learn to trust especially when you began to see the PASTOR of the church doing such act of betrayal? Don't get me wrong I know it has been going on throughout the ages but now it has become a trend.
Some say that the same-sex marriages has corrupted the sanctity of marriage but in my eyes those who use marriage for other reasons than to love, honor, cherish and obey the one they are vowing their lives to are the ones destroying the sacredness of marriage.
I have found that there are so many people who rather save face for their indiscretions of betraying their wife/husband when they admit to cheating, instead of trying to stay with that good woman/ man they would rather end their marriage and marry the one who help destroy their marriage. See we as humans complain of not being able to find a good man/woman but when we get them we don't know how to treat them or keep them. Yet when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side that it is artificial turf you want to come back. By that time someone else has begun to appreciate what you didn't want to.
I'm writing this from experience. I was blessed with that one person who is my everything and the person that let her go is still trying to get what they once had back. But the truth is we have a choice as to how we make our beds then we have to lay in it. I see and hear so much with unhappy people because of bad decisions made. I've learned it is better to work it out with someone that is willing to fight for you than someone that just want to f*$k you. A true god fearing man or woman is hard to come by so when you get them hold on to them. There is no perfect relationship but there are relationships that are perfect for you.
I'm thankful and grateful for my blessing and couldn't imagine my life without my wife. I can't speak for all but I can speak for some. Learn what it is to love and be loved before you try love. True love comes from within once you learn what it is to love yourself then you have tools to work with when desiring to love someone else. I don't have all the answers but I do have a testimony as to finding love and holding on to it. I'm someone that loves love and want everyone to experience the same kind of love I have if not better. But you first have to be truthful about what it is you truly want. If all you want to do is have multiple partners I don't condone it but don't drag someone who wants to settle down into your whirlwind. Be honest with yourself and others before capturing someone's heart.
I've been in several relationships and have learned from them all. I was never one to go into another relationship still holding on and wishing to be with the person that I just got out of a relationship with. Tell me what is the purpose of getting into a new relationship and still desiring the last one you were in a relationship with. To make matters worse you get engaged and then married to this new person yet you are still trying to pursue a relationship with your ex. If you have moved on and they have moved on why are you still holding on? How can you enter into holy matrimony with someone yet you are still pursuing other people.
Since when did getting married and continue being a hoe become the latest trend for marriage? How can you stand before god and vow your love, life and all to someone you are clearly not in love with?
You have cheated on everyone you have married and for whatever reason you cannot see the dysfunction in that. Or is it that you just don't want to. When did it become the thing to do to sleep with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend partner then marry them? When did it become the latest trend to talk about and hold conferences on being faithful to your spouse, when you are always the one cheating?
Because there are so many good and deserving people seeking the right mate it is hard because of the cheaters and liars. How can anyone learn to trust especially when you began to see the PASTOR of the church doing such act of betrayal? Don't get me wrong I know it has been going on throughout the ages but now it has become a trend.
Some say that the same-sex marriages has corrupted the sanctity of marriage but in my eyes those who use marriage for other reasons than to love, honor, cherish and obey the one they are vowing their lives to are the ones destroying the sacredness of marriage.
I have found that there are so many people who rather save face for their indiscretions of betraying their wife/husband when they admit to cheating, instead of trying to stay with that good woman/ man they would rather end their marriage and marry the one who help destroy their marriage. See we as humans complain of not being able to find a good man/woman but when we get them we don't know how to treat them or keep them. Yet when you find out the grass isn't greener on the other side that it is artificial turf you want to come back. By that time someone else has begun to appreciate what you didn't want to.
I'm writing this from experience. I was blessed with that one person who is my everything and the person that let her go is still trying to get what they once had back. But the truth is we have a choice as to how we make our beds then we have to lay in it. I see and hear so much with unhappy people because of bad decisions made. I've learned it is better to work it out with someone that is willing to fight for you than someone that just want to f*$k you. A true god fearing man or woman is hard to come by so when you get them hold on to them. There is no perfect relationship but there are relationships that are perfect for you.
I'm thankful and grateful for my blessing and couldn't imagine my life without my wife. I can't speak for all but I can speak for some. Learn what it is to love and be loved before you try love. True love comes from within once you learn what it is to love yourself then you have tools to work with when desiring to love someone else. I don't have all the answers but I do have a testimony as to finding love and holding on to it. I'm someone that loves love and want everyone to experience the same kind of love I have if not better. But you first have to be truthful about what it is you truly want. If all you want to do is have multiple partners I don't condone it but don't drag someone who wants to settle down into your whirlwind. Be honest with yourself and others before capturing someone's heart.
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